Hominem quaero, distingo

“The true search is not for echo, but for resonance.”

And so, I’m still searching for that one person. Independence, for now, is a given—life has unfolded in such a way that relying on others hasn’t been an option. To keep my thinking alive and avoid intellectual stagnation, I’ve been engaging in diverse conversations, both in everyday life and within various groups. Still, I continue looking for a true sparring presence—someone whose worldview sparks thought, not resistance. I once found such a connection by chance. Ever since, I’ve been trying to recreate that rare experience.

In Search of Insightful Exchange

These kinds of connections rarely form in formal settings. More often, they arise at the crossroads of different worlds—when people bring contrasting styles of thinking, but share a similar depth. Perhaps the focus shouldn’t be on joining groups, but on one-to-one dialogue, where questions are genuine and perspectives expand rather than clash.

Sometimes, it’s the unexpected meetings that prove most fruitful. Instead of chasing replicas of what once was, maybe it’s time to let new formats emerge—ones that might offer even more.

On the Risk of Closed Groups

Even the most forward-thinking communities tend to narrow over time—developing tight-knit terminologies and localized ideas that gradually shut out fresh thought. In this landscape, staying open is not just a preference—it’s a strategy for intellectual survival.

So perhaps what’s needed isn’t a “group,” but a “space”—where belonging matters less than the freedom to explore and engage in honest discourse.

Still, the search continues. Whether it’s an individual, a group, or a shared space of kindred minds—finding that resonance remains essential. It’s not just a search for presence—but for essence. And in that, the search remains alive.

I carry the phrase with me: Hominem quaero, distingo — “I seek a human being, and I do not confuse appearances with essence.” Not just a person—but someone truly virtuous and authentic.