I Don’t Have Time As usual and she made me laugh all day. It’s a phrase we all use. Polite. Efficient. Unassailable. But beneath its surface, something else stirs. “I don’t have time” rarely means a shortage of minutes. It’s a shield. A signal. A soft refusal wrapped in social grace. Sometimes it means: “I’m not ready to feel what this might awaken.” Or: “I’d rather not engage with what this asks of me.” Or simply: “This doesn’t belong in my current rhythm.” And that’s okay. Not every offering needs to be received. Not every reflection needs to be read. Not every gesture needs to be mirrored. But let’s not pretend it’s about the clock. Time is elastic. What we truly mean is: “I choose not to enter this space right now.” And that choice deserves respect. Still, for those who offer— A text, a stone, a question— Know this: Even unanswered, the gesture ripples.
Unfolding the Thinking Behind Notetaking